Use Your Power As a Bystander

You are at a party or out drinking and you notice a situation that seems like someone’s safety is at risk.  For example, a female is drunk and is being pulled into a bedroom.  You know something is up but you don’t know how to help.  You also wonder, should I get involved?  I bet she hopes you do.  Because of your help, a sexual assault could be prevented.  You can do something.

Here are some ideas on what to do:

• Diffuse the situation and interrupt the scene – tell a joke, spill a drink, tell them you went in the wrong room or that you are sick and need to lay down
• Let the person know you are watching (give an obvious silent stare or other method)
• Take the person aside and speak to them
• Ask the person who may be in trouble if they need help and let them know you are willing to assist
• Bring the situation to the attention of others
• Shout something so everyone hears (“leave her alone”)
• Call for help – the police, a trusted person or security